How to Cope With a Relationship Ending – 3 Things You Should Do
Trying to cope with the ending of a relationship is one of the harder things that you can do in life. No one likes to deal with the feelings that come along with having their relationship come to an end, especially if it really was not your decision for things to be that way. When you are the one that gets dumped, it can be hard to deal with all of the questions that you may have in your mind. You probably have thought about the fact that there may have been things that you neglected to do that could have saved the relationship and that alone can make you feel worse about the way that it turned out.
For many people, the ending of a relationship is a sad time, though it can be the signal of a new beginning. I don’t want to get too into the idea of needing to have a positive attitude to get past this, but it certainly does help. When you are constantly thinking about things in a negative light, you can’t help but to feel worse. So, there is some incentive to try and stay as positive as you can.
Here are 3 things that I think you should do right now if you are trying to cope with the ending of a relationship:
1) You should try to stop thinking about what you could have done differently in the relationship.
Thinking about this a little bit can be constructive, so it’s not a bad idea to give some pause to reflect on the things that you could have done differently. That way, you are able to learn from your mistakes and hopefully, you won’t make them again. Still, if you think about them too much, not only can it make you feel down about the situation – it will also keep you from being able to really move on from this experience.
2) You should allow yourself the freedom to go out and have fun even though you may be hurting.
It’s not a good idea to isolate yourself when you may be hurting from a break up. And it is also not a good idea to punish yourself and feel like you can’t have any fun at all. It’s healthy to go out and do things that will make you happy and even possibly forget about the break up as much as you can.
3) You should approach new people, so that you can rebuild your social circle.
One of the things that usually gets people down when they have broken up with someone is the fact that a huge part of their social circle is now gone. Even if you really only lost one person, I bet it was the person that you spent the bulk of your time with. You need to rebuild that social circle, so that the loss that you are feeling does not feel so great. You don’t just have to think about replacing the ex, sometimes just getting a new group of friends will do the trick.
Courtesy : Chris Tyler